1 Samuel 30 tells the account of David and his men returning to Ziklag to find their fortification burned and their families kidnapped by the Amalekites. David had led them to a battle that wasn’t God-sanctioned, which left their families undefended. His intentions had been good, but just because it’s good doesn’t mean it’s God.

Naturally the men were upset and especially upset at David. They even wanter to stone him! It is here where we find that in the face of extreme emotions and adversity, David encouraged himself in the Lord and adjusted course. He asked the priest for the ephod and sought the Lord for direction this time. Some of the men had wept until they lost all strength, but the others joined David at the Word of the Lord in pursuing their enemies and recovering their families.

All of the men had wept, but some maintained their strength to go and fight for who and what they loved. This doesn’t mean they loved their families less. Rathet it indicates they knew they couldn’t give up hope. Those who’d lost strength were told to watch over the burned fortification. I would imagine clean up and repairs were drastically needed. The others went to reclaim what their enemy had stolen.

Our modern culture has (in my opinion) become a similar situation. For many years, men were taught to be providers but not always how to be husbands and fathers in the truest, biblical sense of the words. Women were taught to be homemakers and child-bearers but not always how to be wives and mothers in the truest, biblical sense of the words. 

Slowly but surely, over time, the two sides began to fight against one another rather to fight together against the enemy. One side was not content with their God-given role and wanted what the other had or could do and vice versa. These are generalities of course, however, I can see over my lifetime how the degradation of the Created Order has increased exponentially.

I am not saying that women shouldn’t work or that men should shoulder the entire burden of the household expenses. I am not saying that a woman should only stay at home and do the housework or that a man should never lift a finger to assist with the children.

What I AM saying is that as women are increasingly pushed by societal expectations to do all the things that used to be attributed to men while maintaining their womanly roles but forsaking children for their careers, and as men have been pushed by societal expectations to step aside and allow women to enter roles that were usually attributed to men rather than protect the women, and as the expectation of men to be a present and involved father and husband have been lowered via government being overly involved and abortion being used to removed the consequences of actions, depression and anxiety have skyrocketed, while responsibility, accountability, maturity, and motivation to be your best version of who God created you to be has plummeted.

I am saying this as a woman who works, homeschools, homesteads, and many other things: I NEED my husband. I need the balance that he brings to my life. I need the order and covering he brings to me spiritually. I need the protection his presence offers me. I need the masculine example for our children that I can not provide to them as a female. I NEED him.

There have been times where we have dealt with physical things I’m our home and spiritual things in our home. While I could have handled them to a degree, he was MADE to handle them in a more efficient way than I can. We are not perfect people, but the fact that order is in our home is due to the godly balance we bring to one another. I find great security in knowing he is a man who is willing to weep when weeping needs to be done but he’s also willing to fight whomever and whatever needs fighting in defense of me and our children.

Search your own heart today and ask God to show you yourself. Seek His will for your life and the lives of those over whom you have influence. Man or woman, will you cry? Will you fight? I believe we’ve long been at a point in our world wide societies where we need good men to weep, seek the Lord, and then go take back what the enemy has stolen. There is value in men who weep.